Dancing with the devil. Fourth review. Chapter 5 Envy and Jealousy. Chapter 6 Resentment and Revenge. Jealousy arises from a loved one, and envy is a feeling felt towards those around you who are doing better than you. Love is originally giving the other person the power to destroy me, and comparison with others is a natural human instinct. In the first place, without comparison with others, you cannot recognize yourself or know whether you are doing well or not. These emotions are more like food for monsters than monsters themselves. We generally live within the bounds of good. The problem arises when you try to do something in response to the pain immediately. No one wants to feel defeated, but you have to admit that you can't avoid that pain. Envy becomes a monster when you refuse to live with the painful realization that life is different from what you thought. The reason we avoid envy is because we avoid failure. But humans fail sometimes, and that's just the way life is. People who harbor resentment harm others and themselves unnecessarily. Like white Americans who choose not to receive medical services themselves rather than have them expanded to benefit ethnic minorities. The reason other people affect you is because you value socializing with them. Being tied to social life actually means being vulnerable to the thoughts and actions of others. No one is free from imperfection, and sometimes they become a mess on their own. The moment I think that can't be the case, I become the most messed up. Human nature is that desire is strengthened by frustration. The more you nag and suppress, the greater the desire to rebel. Resentment makes people reckless. They only do things that are harmful to themselves just to harass others. It makes you do anything you're told not to do without thinking. Even if it benefits me. The psychology of wanting to eat something regardless of cholesterol levels if you are too forcefully told not to eat dessert is similar to this. Kindness is not simply about the well-being and health of my life. My life must be mine, and it must be mine. But every moment we are drawn to the things we care about and move away from ourselves. You can regain yourself when you maintain your own space in a private room. Resentment arises when someone invades that private room. It's not wrong to feel this, but remember that you weren't made to bear the weight of your ego. If you build your ego around conflict, you will be consumed by resentment and have nothing left after completely defeating your opponent. You can't live. The ego must be made stronger than my enemy. #EnvyJealousy #HumanRelationships #Emotions #Psychology #BookReview #SelfImprovement #SelfReflection #Mindfulness #Anxiety #PhilosophyOfLife

Protecting the disappearing me. This is the author's book I met at the 2nd Gunsan Book Fair last year. It was the first book I decided to buy among many attractive books. Protecting the disappearing me. There are happy times laughing and chatting with company life, friends, and family, but there seem to be times when I feel like I'm subtly disappearing. Especially company life. In the conservative Joseon Dynasty culture, even young junior employees or women are often subject to extreme criticism or ignored just for expressing their thoughts and voices. The images of countless Kkondae and seniors I've met so far pass by like a panorama. Now that I'm in a senior position, when I see juniors not putting up with things I used to put up with so easily or acting recklessly, I sometimes feel sorry for the seniors of the past, but... This book talks about how difficult it is to consider oneself already wonderful and sufficient just by existing in a Korean society where normality and meritocracy are rampant, not feeling defeated, and living positively in one's own life. The author's short biography, who wants to love and be loved without losing humanity, away from the normality that the world has gaslighted for years through indoctrination, is honestly contained. Humans are beings who must live together in groups in society. At the same time, they are already complete just by existing, but everyone, large or small, considers those who deviate even slightly from the normality set by the group, that is, society, or those who are eliminated from competition to be worthless, and everyone seems to be living in anxiety, struggling not to become like that. I wonder if there are any happy people. These days, the story of the author who worked hard to overcome hurdles and tried to belong to normal society but eventually became a worker outside the organization seems to have become too common and ordinary. I wonder if I still have that courage. At the end, the author doesn't proudly boast about her current life, but talks about the door that can't be seen unless you close the door. No one can predict a choice that they won't regret. I recommend this book to everyone who is facing fear. Let's sincerely feel that I am still a valuable being even if I don't have any achievements to boast about to the world. The excerpted content is as follows. "Living with a sensitive body, I often wonder who set the standards for what is said to be natural. There are many people who go to work while listening to real verbal abuse, but they might say it's just whining when I'm suffering alone. The gestures I made to hide my appearance, which is far from normal, and to appear as an ordinary member of society. If I was a person who was alienated from society when I was unemployed, I was diligently cooperating in erasing myself in the company. In a competition where you have to pass exams and be ranked, being called incompetent was no different from being worthless. Isn't it just that I'm trying to package the place where I ran away from that ugly appearance and fell as a choice? Another door that can only be seen when you close the door. And I want to congratulate myself on choosing to meet the many stumbling blocks and the unexpectedly beautiful flowers that can only be seen from the fallen place. However, there are realities and choices that only become visible when you have to make an irreversible decision. As long as you stay in the company, you don't know the desperation of not having a salary." #SelfReflection #SelfEsteemRecovery #Mindfulness #OfficeWorkerSympathy #Resignation 고민 #LifeBookRecommendation #Bookstagram #EssayRecommendation #RelationshipAesthetics #TimeToMyself

Dancing with the Devil, Third Review. The chapter begins with the story that hatred starts from fear. It is said that there are many ordinary people in the American far-right group Unite the Right. At the heart of every twisted and hateful worldview lies the anger of ordinary people. Is anger really the main culprit that turns people into monsters? The story of Stoic philosopher Seneca and Buddhist Shantideva, who see anger as a harm, and Aristotle, Confucius, feminist philosopher Marilyn Frye, and Audre Lorde, who argue that anger can be rational and sometimes necessary, are told. As pros and cons about anger come and go, the author slowly reaches his own conclusion. There is no need to distinguish between bad anger and good anger, and humans are complex beings, so they do not choose to feel only righteous anger. Sometimes we feel trivial anger when the line at the cafe is long or when our favorite glass breaks, and it is neither a waste of energy nor an emotion to be controlled. We feel anger because we cherish our lives. We are used to being gaslighted that we should find joy in trivial things but not be angry at trivial things. We are also good at blaming others for the reason why we are angry. The author tells us to look at why I feel angry. Learn to feel all anger honestly. If you only try to feel constructive anger, you are more likely to be trapped in a bizarre justification logic and become like the hate group Incel, who have their eyes and ears closed. Getting angry is a way of cherishing one's life, and our lives are made up of big and small concerns. There is no good anger or bad anger. There is just anger. There is no need to push or tame yourself to suppress anger. What is the way to just feel anger? The excerpted sentence is: "We would rather make enemies than face failure, wandering, or loneliness. Having an enemy allows us to hide from self-doubt." Many people would rather let themselves go in an alternate reality than look straight into the mirror about anger. It's bizarre and childish, but we whisper lies in our own ears. We can make anger a tool to fight injustice or a weapon to destroy enemies, or we can just learn to feel anger. #분노 -> #Anger #감정 -> #Emotion #심리 -> #Psychology #철학 -> #Philosophy #스토아주의 -> #Stoicism #페미니즘 -> #Feminism #혐오 -> #Hate #인셀 -> #Incel #자기계발 -> #SelfDevelopment #독서 -> #Reading

A second review of Dancing with the Devil. Written by an author who majored in philosophy and classics at the University of North Carolina. He is a professor at the University of North Carolina, focusing on American humanities and pure science. His past book is "Naked: The Dark Side of Shame and Moral Life." Today, I carefully read Chapter 3, "Make Room for the Devil." This book is not a book that can be read quickly. It is a book that makes you underline a lot and evokes thoughts. Chapter 3 talks about the ego, Nietzsche, and Satan. Refuting the argument that the ego does not exist in the first place, as in Buddhist studies, he says that self-love is not bad. The explanation of the ego in Buddhism is that it creates its own suffering because it believes that the ego exists. It is not excessive self-love but wrong self-love that is the problem, and the saints see the former as something to overcome human imperfection, and the author says that humans begin to get sick from here. Humans, the ego, are inherently flawed, inconsistent, weak-willed, and do not recognize their shortcomings well, but the belief that they should be despised and rejected and saved by God's grace, science, reason, and art degrades humans, who do not need salvation in the first place, into beings that must be saved. Albert Camus' "The Stranger" and Yang Gui-ja's "Contradiction" came to mind a lot. Pain is essential to living life vividly, and it is a message that you can realize what is important in your life through it. He goes on to argue that you should feel emotions but not act emotionally. The excerpted sentence is as follows. "The great theme of Montaigne's work is the imperfection of human nature. We make mistakes, are inconsistent, weak-willed, and do not recognize our shortcomings well. Montaigne acknowledges all of this but does not despair. He loves life, himself, and humanity despite his flaws. The reason we do bad things because of emotions is that we don't know how to let ourselves feel bad emotions. Justifying bad emotions is usually just another way of refusing to feel them." #DancingWithTheDevil #BookReview #Humanities #Philosophy #Nietzsche #Satan #SelfLove #Camus #TheStranger #Montaigne

Dancing with the devil. Krista K. Thomason. Song Ki-ryeong once said that meditation and mindfulness are also trends. As early as 2024. When I was in my 20s, self-help books based on meritocracy were all the rage. The message is that anyone can find enlightenment in life if they work hard enough to die, sleep less than others, and sacrifice themselves more diligently. I have quite a few books by author Lee Ji-sung on my bookshelf. Now many people know that's nonsense. The craze to cherish myself that appeared after that. These days, we are starting to discuss how to analyze, dissect, and deal with negative emotions, and how to do it in a way that helps me. This book is the next step. I would like to call it emotional existentialism. Negative and positive emotions are not objects or means that should be controlled or led in a good direction, but rather exist in their positions without reason or purpose, just like the result of evolution. This book says that everyone feels negative emotions and that people who only feel positive emotions are not normal. It recommends letting it go and feeling it, but says that moving it to evil actions is a separate matter. It cites the character Iago, who appears in the work Othello, as an example. A book that opens a new horizon in the trend of new philosophy and mind. This is a book I would like to read with those interested in mindfulness. #EmotionalExistentialism #Mindfulness #Meditation #SelfDevelopment #PsychologicalPhilosophy #Othello #BookRecommendation #SonKiRyeong #KristaKThomason #DancingWithTheDevil

The concert performance of Japan's mega-hit popular manga <Jujutsu Kaisen> will be held in 5 cities around the world in 2026! It's amazing how much Jujutsu Kaisen is loved by people all over the world. wow 🫢

The Art of War. Author Robert Greene. What's more unsettling is that sometimes you have to fight with those you thought were on your side. There are those who pretend to work for the team, are friendly and sympathetic on the surface, but sabotage behind the scenes and use the organization for their own benefit. The success or failure of our lives depends on how well we handle the inevitable conflicts we face in society. But the hardest battle to fight is the battle with oneself. Without battle, there is no chance of victory. Don't fall into the temptation to be liked. It's better to be respected and feared. The popularity gained when you win over your enemies lasts longer. Many people hide aggressive desires under the guise of friendship. They come closer to do more harm. In fact, friends are the ones who know best how to hurt you. The origin of the word 'enemy' is the Latin word 'inimicus', which means not a friend. Expose yourself to conflict situations. Be willing to put up with fools. Become emotionally numb. While secretly laughing at their foolishness, induce them to indulge in relatively harmless thoughts of their own. The ability to remain cheerful in the face of fools is an important skill. It was a book that an acquaintance had recommended to me many times as a book of life, but I lived in complacency that there was no war in my life, and only when I was in a war-like situation did I get to read it properly. To distinguish between a fight and a war, a fight has the option of reconciliation, but a war has only defeat or victory. The loser has only the choice of a harsh death or a devastated life. The author of this book, which summarizes 33 strategies for winning a war into 33 strategies, is Robert Greene, who is famous for his planned books. In 1998, his book 'The 48 Laws of Power' was a big hit, and 'The 33 Strategies of War' is his work from 2007. 1. The Art of Self-Preparation. 2. The Art of Organization. 3. The Art of Defense. 4. The Art of Attack. 5. The Art of Conspiracy. It consists of a total of five chapters. Today I read part 1, The Art of Self-Preparation, and looked at three strategies: clarify who the enemy is, allies and enemies, and don't fight in the old way, the war law of innovators, 3, don't lose your composure, and the leader's mental strength. In modern society, it is rather grateful to openly reveal hostility, and it is rather grateful to have an enemy who reveals hostility, and it was interesting that the origin of the enemy is someone who is not a friend, saying that a friend can hurt you the most. Innovators don't use the same technology and turn composure on and off. It's a magical book that makes you feel like you're learning just by reading it. I recommend it to myself. Your biggest enemy is yourself. Don't waste precious time dreaming about the future instead of committing to the present. Because nothing feels urgent, you're only half-focused on what you're doing now. If you want to go back alive, you have to fight with your back to the wall and be prepared to die. The team was steeped in the defeatism shown by adolescent teenagers. Teenagers often have a rebellious yet helpless attitude. This is a way to settle for the status quo. Trying something more difficult increases the risk of failure, so they prefer to lower their expectations rather than take that risk. We think it's better to live normally than to be anxious to achieve something. If you accept defeat, you won't get hurt as much. The same goes for groups. Even if only a few people in the team have this attitude, expectations gradually decrease and defeatism takes root. If a leader tries to change the atmosphere of the group through direct methods such as shouting at team members, scolding them, and imposing sanctions, they will only become more rebellious. Abundance makes me poor. An army that seems superior in firepower is easy to predict. They rely on equipment instead of knowledge or strategy, so they become mentally lazy. When you have less, you naturally become more creative. Pride and anger covered their judgment. Don't fall into that trap. You need to know when to stop. You should never continue fighting out of despair or pride. Because it costs too much. No matter how bad the situation is, don't despair. Even if everything is scary, don't be afraid. Even if there are dangers everywhere, don't be afraid of anything. When there are no resources, rely on ingenuity, and when ambushed, catch the enemy with an ambush. It is not because you are strong that an attack comes out. Unnecessary attacks are actions to hide weaknesses. As a result, the attacker cannot control his emotions. It seems strong when the first attack is launched, but as the attack lengthens, the weaknesses and anxieties hidden within become clearer and clearer. People who cannot exercise patience and attack first are likely to lose. Make it impossible for the other person to predict what you will do in the future. This book consistently argues that being an unpredictable and threatening presence is better than being a presence that everyone likes, following on from the last part I read. It reminds me of the phrase, 'It's better to be crazy than to be flexible.' Is living with a good heart, loving each other, and believing that good is good a wet dream of a defeatist, or is it innocent? I've been wondering these days. In this book, which introduces 33 strategies out of a total of five parts, the next parts I read are the Art of Organization and the Art of Defense. It talks about the leadership of generals who were active in various Western battlefields. A great leader makes his subordinates jump in on their own without making them move, prevents his subordinates from falling into defeatist mannerisms by giving rewards and punishments at unexpected moments, and positions himself as a respected and feared presence by sharing human solidarity and maintaining a certain distance even when he is comfortable. It reminded me of my boss. Is that authoritarian conservative who might suddenly change while aiming for a horizontal relationship also demonstrating strategic leadership? I don't really like it and I don't have much respect for it. I thought that this would only work if the leader was not emotional and had his own standards. In the next part 3, the Art of Defense, he says that you can win a war with a great purpose if you calculate your limited energy before engaging in war. It was interesting that the limit of that energy is something that everyone has equally, so it should be a means rather than an end. Next is the story of not winning by attacking first, but by letting the opponent start the attack first, losing the hand, and counterattacking. The last is the story of building an image of turning into a crazy dog if someone touches you before the war. #The33StrategiesOfWar #RobertGreene #SelfImprovement #HumanRelations #Manners #Strategy #Leadership #DefenseTechnology #OrganizationManagement #Bookstagram

Writing Flight School. Writer Kim Moo-young. Even defining the reason and purpose of writing is not easy. You need to take a deep look at yourself, the reader, the situation, and the context. Even if you prepare well and write, there is no guarantee that the writing will achieve its purpose, so what about writing roughly? "Don't learn someone else's philosophy, learn to philosophize yourself." This is a quote from the German philosopher Immanuel Kant. Sincerity is the best originality in writing. Once you are sincere, you can move the hearts of readers. Writing magically contains the writer's sincerity. A sincerely written article reveals sincerity, but a fake article is empty. The power that I can write better than others comes from my own individuality that is different from others. I am not a politician, but I can still talk about my thoughts on politics, and I am not an artist, but I can talk about art because it is me. It doesn't matter what you write. But it has to be my writing. The biggest competitive edge of my writing is myself. The source of my writing is my own self. My own life and thoughts become the color of my writing that goes into each piece of writing. Writing. The act of capturing the most me-like moments or appearances in writing. A carving technique that makes invisible threads of thought visible. Writing is a sublime labor because of the obvious truth that only completed writing can come out into the world. No matter how well a person writes, if they don't move their body and write, they haven't written. No matter how bad a person is at writing, if they keep writing, they will write well. The person who writes wins and the person who doesn't write loses. This is the truth of writing. Book review. It was a book that a senior I really loved lent me, saying it was a book that was difficult to purchase now, but I kept putting it off while thinking I should read it. The author realized his own self and being alive while ghostwriting eight books for three years as a ghostwriter in his 30s, and published his first book, 『Humanities is a Happy Play』 in 2013. Kim Moo-young, who is now a full-time writer, talks about the essence of writing and the life of writing. It's easy to think that writing doesn't play a big role in my life. So this book was also pushed down in priority for me. Today, after reading about half of it, I learned about the definition of writing and the power of writing from the author. In the past, writing was not something that everyone could do, and now everyone can write, whether it's SNS comments or articles. Therefore, the era in which readers have disappeared has come, and there are many people who want to write, but the number of people who seriously read other people's writing is decreasing. A good article is said to be one's own article. In order to write well, you need reading, contemplation, and discussion, and the process of contemplation allows you to look into yourself, and the time you don't write, that is, the time you prepare, is more important than the time you write. I recommend this book to anyone who wants to know themselves. #Writing #KimMooyoung #WritingSecrets #MyOwnSelf #SelfDevelopment #BookReview #BookRecommendation #Humanities #WritingLife #Writer

<Protecting Myself from Being Erased> This is a book by author Yeon-ok, whom I met at the Gunsan Book Fair in August of this year, or rather, August of last year. <Protecting Myself from Being Erased> This book is divided into two parts. The first part is the story of entering the company, enduring company life, and resigning. The illustrations inserted in between are also said to be drawn by the author herself, and there are often pictures comparing ideals and reality. Her life after leaving the company feels like a preview of the hardships to come. However, when I bought this book directly, the author even signed it and her face looked very clear and happy when we talked. So I'm looking forward to Part 2. How did she eventually get to where she is now? "I now know how precious it is to work while protecting yourself. I wrote this book for you who are shaken by the same concerns as me." This is a touching line in the author's words. How did she protect herself? An average life, a hidden self. Now a retiree. It seems like resting youth has also become some kind of average, and I wonder if I am chasing another average now. What does it mean to live as myself? This is a book I would like to recommend to those who feel like they are the only strange person. At the end, the author doesn't proudly boast about her current life, but talks about the door that you can't see unless you close the door. No one can predict a choice that they won't regret. Even if there are no achievements to boast about to the world, let's not forget that I am still a valuable being and sincerely feel it. I recommend this book to everyone who is facing fear. #Bookstagram #BookRecommendation #GunsanBookFair #YeonOkAuthor #ProtectingMyselfFromBeingErased #Resignation #SelfEsteem #LivingAsMyself #Youth #ComfortingWords

Recently, there are animations called the "Big 3": Demon Slayer, Jujutsu Kaisen, and Chainsaw Man. I'm going to talk about these three. First of all, the first animation I watched was Jujutsu Kaisen. It was so much fun. Actually, I fell for it. And then I watched Chainsaw Man. I thought it would be the last animation that would allow me to catch up with Generation Z. I enjoyed watching it. And finally, I watched Demon Slayer, and even after watching episodes 11 and 12, I couldn't understand why this animation was so popular. #DemonSlayer #JujutsuKaisen #ChainsawMan #Animation #AnimationRecommendation #AnimationReview #TrueBigShot #AnimationAppreciation #AnimationManiac #GenZ